As this week began, I received some news that left me shocked, heartbroken, and more determined than ever to share my story and bring awareness to things that are kept in the dark by many.
I am a mother of three children (pictured above) my oldest son is now 25 years old going on 26 years old and my twins are 18 years old going on 19 years old. For the last four years since 2012, my twins were alienated from me. They were brainwashed, controlled, and manipulated because after 15 years in which I was being physically, emotionally, and verbally abused along with being threatened in this distributive marriage. I lived with a man that was a narcissist and when I left everything was done in their (my ex's family) power to control the situation with my twins so that would be against me. My crime was not leaving this relationship when my children were younger. What many do not know is that Parental Alienation is a form of CHILD ABUSE! I didn't know this until after I left and began reading about it. My ex would ALWAYS put me down in front of my kids. He would also tell them they didn't have to listen to me. These are all things controlling narcissist do, I never knew this until it was too late.
The news I received earlier this week was that the family and my kids moved out of the state of Florida. My heart was scattered four years ago when the alienation began. Yet I am here to share my light as the Lightworker that I know I AM!
Yet all I can say to my twins is that I wish them all the happiness in the world. I pray they reach for their dreams and goals. I hope they never have to endure mistreatment. And most importantly I love them with all my heart.
My friend if YOU are in a relationship that does not serve your highest good. If you are being abused, mistreated, called names, your property is being broken....YOU need to get out NOW!
My advice to you is do not wait until your kids have gotten big and have been brainwashed.
I share this not out of anger or bitterness. I have forgiven my ex and his family for the cruelty their hand has played in the alienation process with my twins. Forgiveness is a gift I gave myself.....because.....I have been given this lesson to bring awareness for those that have no voice.
To my twins Ashley and Junior - I love you both always and forever. No matter how far you've moved away from Florida....I am your mother and nothing will ever keep me from loving you and I am ALWAYS here for you whenever you are ready.
My twins (2016)
Nancy Santana's passion is to empower, motivate, encourage, and inspire you to reach for your dreams and goals.